Beautiful, outgoing and successful girl spends her 20s going through a string of boyfriends who don't pan out. Thinks she's doomed to spinsterhood, has generally terrible luck with men, not through any fault of her own other than being too patient and optimistic with guys who are never going to commit to her.
Gets to her early 30s and finally meets a guy who's right and who wants the same things, stability, kids, lifelong commitment. They fall for each other. By the third date or so, however, she learns that the guy, also in his early 30s, is unable to get an erection. He has been in some long relationships before and had been, according to him, sexually operational; then there was a two year period of being single and he starts to notice his willy going soft. We don't consider there to be any reason he's lying about his prior functionality - why would he?
He didn't plan on falling in love again, but now that he has, he's started seeing specialists. Drugs like Viagra and Cialis have had no effect...One specialist tells him it's a vascular issue; the prognosis at this point starts to look grim....
He's just about perfect for her in every other way, however. He could, with difficulty, produce sperm for the purpose of artificial insemination (or there are always more invasive measures), so kids aren't necessarily off the table. However, the prospect of a sexless marriage looms very large right now.
So, what do you do if you are the girl? She's extremely affectionate, needs reciprocation loves sex, you'd certainly describe her as a 'sexual being'. This issue is causing them to avoid fooling around much at all because there can be no fulfillment. Does she walk away? She wants marriage and a family more than anything, but the strain of a sexless marriage would be enormous and would, in my thinking, almost certainly lead to an affair at some point. But ditching this poor man, who's an all-around good guy, would be devastating for him, obviously. He's found the love of his life and he is, I can well imagine, terrified.
This is not a ganja-esque hypothetical, the people involved are real. What is the right thing to do? Just thought I'd get some feedback.
Gets to her early 30s and finally meets a guy who's right and who wants the same things, stability, kids, lifelong commitment. They fall for each other. By the third date or so, however, she learns that the guy, also in his early 30s, is unable to get an erection. He has been in some long relationships before and had been, according to him, sexually operational; then there was a two year period of being single and he starts to notice his willy going soft. We don't consider there to be any reason he's lying about his prior functionality - why would he?
He didn't plan on falling in love again, but now that he has, he's started seeing specialists. Drugs like Viagra and Cialis have had no effect...One specialist tells him it's a vascular issue; the prognosis at this point starts to look grim....
He's just about perfect for her in every other way, however. He could, with difficulty, produce sperm for the purpose of artificial insemination (or there are always more invasive measures), so kids aren't necessarily off the table. However, the prospect of a sexless marriage looms very large right now.
So, what do you do if you are the girl? She's extremely affectionate, needs reciprocation loves sex, you'd certainly describe her as a 'sexual being'. This issue is causing them to avoid fooling around much at all because there can be no fulfillment. Does she walk away? She wants marriage and a family more than anything, but the strain of a sexless marriage would be enormous and would, in my thinking, almost certainly lead to an affair at some point. But ditching this poor man, who's an all-around good guy, would be devastating for him, obviously. He's found the love of his life and he is, I can well imagine, terrified.
This is not a ganja-esque hypothetical, the people involved are real. What is the right thing to do? Just thought I'd get some feedback.
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