Have you ever really put yourself out to help a friend in need? And not a really true friend (I'm sure we've all been in positions where we've done things for true mates), but a kind of mate of a mate, who it's obvious you are in a position to help out, but who you don't really know that well?
A mate of a mate of mine has just been kicked out of his house by his missus, after yet another blazing row, and needs somewhere to kip for a few days, that may or may not turn into a few weeks. He's a nice enough bloke (at least as far as I'm concerned), but he is bit of a boozer, and I'm worried that if I allow him the benefit of stopping round at my house, it might turn into a relationship that will be awkward to terminate. I do, however, have an empty spare bedroom at my house at the moment (I wouldn't let him have the rooms I count as my daughters' bedrooms when they stay with me). I do feel a bit tight being prissy about extending him the "olive branch", so to speak, especially as at the moment he's sleeping on the couch of another (better) friend of mine who has no spare room, but I value my own space and like the fact that it's just me and the cats in here, and him in the house would mean lots of new upheavals to my quiet daily routine (especially if he started bringing mates round of his own). On the other hand, he's clearly desperate for somewhere to stay, and I feel bad for my other friend who's putting him up in her lounge when he could have my spare room.
I really don't want to feel pressured into offering him anything, but on the other hand I feel like a right cunt, because my friend who he's currently staying with (and all my other friends) know that I jolly well do have the room to put him up.
Am I better being sneered at for not opening my doors to him, or should I do the Christian thing? Have you ever been in my position?
A mate of a mate of mine has just been kicked out of his house by his missus, after yet another blazing row, and needs somewhere to kip for a few days, that may or may not turn into a few weeks. He's a nice enough bloke (at least as far as I'm concerned), but he is bit of a boozer, and I'm worried that if I allow him the benefit of stopping round at my house, it might turn into a relationship that will be awkward to terminate. I do, however, have an empty spare bedroom at my house at the moment (I wouldn't let him have the rooms I count as my daughters' bedrooms when they stay with me). I do feel a bit tight being prissy about extending him the "olive branch", so to speak, especially as at the moment he's sleeping on the couch of another (better) friend of mine who has no spare room, but I value my own space and like the fact that it's just me and the cats in here, and him in the house would mean lots of new upheavals to my quiet daily routine (especially if he started bringing mates round of his own). On the other hand, he's clearly desperate for somewhere to stay, and I feel bad for my other friend who's putting him up in her lounge when he could have my spare room.
I really don't want to feel pressured into offering him anything, but on the other hand I feel like a right cunt, because my friend who he's currently staying with (and all my other friends) know that I jolly well do have the room to put him up.
Am I better being sneered at for not opening my doors to him, or should I do the Christian thing? Have you ever been in my position?
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