Proposal. Marriage. Eurrgh. Never again, in my case. Except ...
I'm getting very comfortable with my girlfriend now; she's been living with me for twelve months, her family all seem to like me (or at least pretend to) and mine adore her, especially my daughters, which matters a lot to me.
We can carry on like this ad infinitum, or I can "pop the question". Maybe as a Xmas surprise. It almost seems like I might as well. I wonder if secretly she'd love me to. On several occasions I've explained the fact that I've been divorced once already and would really, really, hesitate before going down that road again, and she's accepted that, is still with me and seems happy with that. She is ten years younger than me, though, and while happy to accept that she'll never have kids of her own (not with me) it seems a bit much to deny her "big day" as well, if we are, as I now suspect, going to stay together for the rest of our whatevers.
I'm pondering it. Only pondering. And don't worry, she's not on OTF. I just wondered what other OTFer "second-time-rounders" - or indeed "first-timers" (my first marriage, I proposed within about 3 months, it was all a bit of a young romance thing) would think about my position, and advise.
I'm getting very comfortable with my girlfriend now; she's been living with me for twelve months, her family all seem to like me (or at least pretend to) and mine adore her, especially my daughters, which matters a lot to me.
We can carry on like this ad infinitum, or I can "pop the question". Maybe as a Xmas surprise. It almost seems like I might as well. I wonder if secretly she'd love me to. On several occasions I've explained the fact that I've been divorced once already and would really, really, hesitate before going down that road again, and she's accepted that, is still with me and seems happy with that. She is ten years younger than me, though, and while happy to accept that she'll never have kids of her own (not with me) it seems a bit much to deny her "big day" as well, if we are, as I now suspect, going to stay together for the rest of our whatevers.
I'm pondering it. Only pondering. And don't worry, she's not on OTF. I just wondered what other OTFer "second-time-rounders" - or indeed "first-timers" (my first marriage, I proposed within about 3 months, it was all a bit of a young romance thing) would think about my position, and advise.
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